Are you getting up every morning going to a job that you dread?
Do you feel like there is more to life than getting up, going to work, coming home, eating dinner, getting ready for bed and then getting up to do it all over again day after day?
Well if this is your story you are not alone. I'll be the first to say that I did this for over a decade and it's not fun. It's physically and mentally exhausting. In fact research shows that 87% of employees world wide are not engaged at work.
Life is meant to be lived to the fullest. I believe that you should enjoy life including your work. Work is necessary to provide the kind of lifestyle you want for you and your family. Why wouldn't you want to enjoy what you do?
For many years I suffered headaches and was anxious because I was allowing myself to do something I didn't enjoy. You know the feeling in your gut telling you it's time to move on but you push it down and keep doing the thing that makes you unhappy anyway?
That's the feeling I had but I chose to ignore it. As a result I was cranky all the time, I snapped at my family and I felt like a fraud because I was doing something that I knew I wasn't supposed to be doing. I felt stuck.
I believed I was doing a good thing by staying on a job I was miserable being at, in order to help provide for my family. I was doing a good thing however it was not the right thing for me and the direction I wanted to go. Whenever you have a choice it's always best to do what's right over what's good. Just because something is good for you doesn't mean it's right for you.
For example you can talk to someone about something you are going through and they may give you good advice however it may not be the right advice based on where you see yourself going. You have to be careful who you are getting advice from and whether or not their advice is fueled by fear or faith.
The worst thing you can do is solicit advise from someone who is afraid of any and everything. If you need someone to talk to make sure it's someone who is a person of faith and action. Preferably someone who has done what you want to do.
In my case I did a lot of praying, meditating and getting clear about exactly what I wanted for my life. It was only after I was clear about what I wanted that I talked to my spouse about it and we came up with a plan.
There are many things you can do to plan for your next destination. Take time to get quiet and think about what brings you joy and plan your exit strategy.
It's important to plan what you can. That doesn't mean you will have all the answers but it does mean you discipline yourself to get clear on what you want and start working toward that goal.
Here are 3 things I did to make leaving my job possible without having another job lined up :
I spent a lot of time in prayer and asking myself what I wanted my life to look like. I was very specific about what I wanted. I wrote down the things that I wanted for myself, I wrote down scriptures and affirmed them over my life every day. I spent time meditating and listening for God's voice concerning my situation. You have not because you ask not. In order to get answers you must ask questions. Most of the time we aren't afraid to ask for what we want but we're afraid of the answer because it requires us to move out of our comfort zone. You have to ask your self the questions and be ready for the answer.
This is very important once you ask yourself the hard questions and you get the answers you must believe. Pay attention to your feelings. When you get an answer that resonates with you it feels right on the inside. There is a peace that comes over you. A joy that you can't really explain takes over. To dominate in life and be the success you were born to be takes faith and belief. You have to believe in yourself and begin to prepare for what you asked for. Start filling out resumes, talk to people about job opportunities, research things you are passionate about that can bring you an income.
After you ask the questions and you believe in the answers you must be open to receive what you believe is yours. This takes action! You need to expect opportunities to present themselves. Create opportunities for yourself by putting your gift and talents to work. Put a date to your resignation letter and move toward your goal.
Leaving what's familiar is never easy but it is required to live the life you desire. I chose to do something different in order to get a different result.
Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. To begin making a change it starts with the way you think. The first thing you have to do is change your mindset.
Here is a recap of some of the things I did to prepare my exit:
- I made the decision that I no longer wanted to go to a job I disliked and that did not align with my purpose.
- I started thinking about what I wanted for my life, what my purpose is and how I could use my gift to serve the world.
- I wrote those things down and put them in a place where I could see them daily.
I prayed and meditated daily for clarity and direction.
I started searching for jobs by putting out resumes and contacting people about job opportunities that aligned with my purpose.
I typed up my resignation letter and saved it in my computer until I was clear about exactly when I was going to leave.
I sent out a survey using a free service with survey monkey to 10 friends to anonymously give me feedback on what they recognized to be my strengths and what service they felt I could provide that would help them achieve their goals.
I took several online courses to prepare me to create valuable content.
I started getting my finances in order, check into your retirement plan, If you are a vested employee you may be eligible to collect your pension in a lump sum or get installments when you meet the age requirement. Cut back on expenses that are not a priority. Look into ways you can freelance and make money to start saving what you can as you plan your exit.
Talk to your spouse if you are married. You definitely want to be on the same page about important decisions.
Last I took action. I put a date to my resignation letter, put in my two weeks notice and I never looked back.
It was one of the best decisions I made for myself but it wasn't easy. Change is never easy, that's why I created a free 5 day challenge to help you put a plan in place. This challenge is designed to help you get clear about what you want , so you don't waste time doing things that don't align with your purpose.
The time to take action is now so you're ready for the opportunities that come later. Remember to ASK, BELIEVE and RECEIVE. Your destiny awaits you. You have what it takes to dominate in life so go out and get it!